(I’m hoping I am understanding number 3 right lol. So forgive me if I’m not. For pronouns for Dest, it would be she/her. She’s bixsexual but still identifies as a female.)

“Oh… Three things that make me anxious? Hmm… Crowded places. I like to meet new people but I prefer the experience to be more… Private. Too many people makes me anxious and I’ll withdraw. Slimy things. I can’t stand the feeling. Like the other night at the FC house when J’siris brought a blue octopus from a fishing contest his sister won. I kept trying to get away from the kitchen but…” Dest narrows her eyes. “Oni dragged me over an then watched to make sure I wouldn’t leave… For a third… Being a healer. I’m always afraid I’m mess up or do something I shouldn’t. I’ve only a few years of experience under my belt.”

“As far as being in love. I have been. More then once. I still find people who I love. However it depends on the type of love you are asking about. There is more then one way to love a person. If you mean romantically then twice. If you mean something else then more times then I would bother counting. First was my husband. Then there was Leon. In the end I lost Leon to illness and married my childhood friend. Beyond that the other people I love are my friends and family.”

(While Lance is demisexual he still identifies as a male. So it would be he/him.)

“Dragons make me anxious. I’ve watched enough good men and woman die to flame and claw and teeth. But I do not let it stop me. I will not let someone’s death mean nothing. Noble lords and ladies as well. While I can function and behave appropriately, it does not mean I want to be in such situations to begin with. An third… dating. It has been years and I have spent so little time socializing since the fall of Steel Vigil that… I guess I am afraid of making a mistake or pushing for too much. Or causing the person who cares about me to worry because I have gotten so used to being so solitary.”

“Of course I have been in love. But love as a teenager compared to love as an adult… They are different. In the years since I had withdrawn an been married to my duty. The ladies my family tried to force upon me never caught my interests, I am seeing someone now though. I have not said the words yet… A part of me wishes to declare the words yet… I feel now is not quite the time either.”

(Thanks for asking @sorceressofdurendaire)