duskwightwoodsman:

eaoisnotawhore:

chidorifarcloud:

xiou:

To all those saying Balmung is ‘clique-ish’

I really would like to know what venues youve been going to, and people youve been trying to RP with to experience this, since this really hasnt been my experince at aLL? (Everyone is entitled to their own experiences of course, Im genuinley curious).

I still consider myself a ‘new’ player on Balmung since I transferred into the server about a month before it closed down. Ive been to my fare share of venues and hung around the quicksand ic enough to know that you wont always get a reply to your posts, or have someone walking up to you, but thats just how RP rolls, its like that in any RP community. This might just be my experience, but most RPers I know have social anxiety, and most arent willing or comfortable enough to start conversation IC. Then theres the issue of ‘what would my character do?’. I’m personally a very outgoing person and love to talk to strangers, but the way I wrote Xiou, she never will start conversation with a stranger unless something really catches her interest. So Xiou naturally doesnt get as much RP as my other characters, who are outgoing and -are- willing to start conversation randomly.

What I’m trying to say is dont take it personally when people don’t reply to your RP posts in a public setting. Sometimes there will be a few days of me going to venues and I dont get anyone but staff talking to me, and this is fine! Its just like in life, not everyone you meet outside is going to talk to you, but one day you might have a chance meeting with someone you really click with and become friends.

If you go to a venue and you think the staff is ‘cliquish’, or the staff treats you and your character with disrespect, or anyone in the community for that matter, then dont talk to them. Dont try to rp with them, dont go to their venues. Dont let no replies or these ‘cliques’ discourage you from RPing in a server or with others.

I love service RP because it allows me to walk-up. Working as a server or vending flowers, I have met quite a few people that even have grown into solid friendships.

I can’t generally do walk ups outside of that myself. Anxiety is a rough thing to have and it is just outside my comfort zone. If I /seem/ like “Oh, Chi just wants to RP with her sisters”. My anxiety has spiked and talking people close to me helps dial it down. And as Xiou mentioned, it seems like a fair few of us in the community suffer from this. Many don’t want to make the first move or can’t.

Please also keep in mind that the scroll at events gets real. I never ignore anyone, but I sure I have accidently done so by just missing something. I tend to tunnel with who I am talking to, to keep up. (And keep an eye out for my name).

Tips from someone who loves to meet and rp with new people but also has anxiety. Please take this all with a grain of salt, this is just what I have found works for me.

• Send a tell first! Looking for rp at the Quicksands? Are people just hanging around and quiet? A lot of people are there just like you are, waiting for someone to make the first move. Looking for rp at an event? The scroll is real and a tell can even still get lost but you have a much better shot if you reach out via tell first and the person knows you are approaching.
• On the subject of the Quicksands, it is a great place to find the start of RP. Most likely people are hanging around because they too are looking for something, have time to pass, etc. Even if your character wouldn’t necessarily be there, sometimes a tell can bridge the gap and you can end up throwing your characters someplace they would actually ICly be so they can have a run in and meet!
• Feeling too anxious to ask to rp but want to socialize? Just send an ooc tell! Glamours/Character design/interesting search info are all amazing places to start. If you have been on an elezen and hung around the sands there is like 90% I have sent you a tell because that is how I make connections for my shit elf when I want to socialize but I am drawing blanks for how else to do so. Almost all of my RP has connected back to these connections I have made from original tells sent this way.
• Keep your search info interesting. Have a link to your Tumblr or RPC wiki, have some sort of catch. If I had 10 Gil for everytime someone sent me a tell asking about why Eao is an HQ Ishgardian Bitch or asking about what makes her aether strange…
• We all love our characters that don’t fit normal standards, but understand your limitations you put on yourself by doing so. I have no disillusions about my trash baby being extremely difficult to interact with when people want nice slice of life RP and I hold no one but myself responsible when it makes it hard to find RP. I refuse, however, to let that stop me from reaching out. If I want silly rp without her limitations, I just slip onto an alt that is easier in social situations.

I met and have an amazing RP partner. @nebula1984

I met her while browsing through RP Tumblr pages and found her character Destiney had some common interests with Syluss. I sent her a message showing RP interest. Months later she is one of my favorite RP partners. Through IC Tumblr posts or Discord RP or interactions in game.

If anyone is interested in RP with me or others, ask em. I am bad at doing RP started I will be first to admit but little blurbs or things of the sort are great ways to get going. Yes I have a few people I RP with more often than others. I get lost easy in large event chat scroll and that is no one’s fault. Want to RP, ask. If someone asks you and you don’t want to for whatever reason, be polite about it. No one needs sour attitude from a simple RP inquiry.